is important to realize that socialization plays a role
in sexual aggression. Experts believe that by re-socializing
people or changing current beliefs, some sexual assaults
can be avoided.
Forced or coerced sexual activity is never justified,
no matter what the situation, even if:
You have had sex with her before
You bought her an expensive dinner or gift
She has been drinking heavily
You think she needs to be persuaded
need to recognize that the motivations for rape include
power, control, and domination. Rape is not motivated by
The word "NO" means "NO."
Your sexual desires may be beyond your control, but how
you act on those desires is within your power. Just because
you are aroused does not give you the right to force intercourse.
Be aware that your physical size can be intimidating. This
can create fear in a woman and may inhibit her ability to
resist. Not all rape victims fight back.
If a female is drunk she cannot give viable consent, therefore
taking sexual advantage of a drunk female is rape. Also,
being drunk yourself is no excuse for committing rape.
When a woman rejects your sexual advances she is not rejecting
you. Remember it is OK not to "score."
Respect a woman's right to stop sexual activity at any time.
Also, be willing to discuss her right to stop. That means
no pressure or debate.
Never assume that a woman wants to have sex. Ask her and
be willing to discuss alternatives to intercourse. Remember
"NO" always means "NO."
Communicate feelings and desires clearly. If you have doubts
about your desires or her wants, stop all behaviors and
talk about the situation. STOP, TALK, AND CLARIFY.
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